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Standing Ovation… to You (You’re not a Victim)


Sticks and stones may break your bones

I know some days it’s hard to get out of bed

But just know that they can’t take your shine

You’re that lone, guiding star shinning bright down for the travellers to see


Don’t cover up your light just to be accepted by the crowd

Your shine is who you are so don’t hide it

Dear, you are in your own lane and they are not ready for you

Don’t live your life settling – NO!


Words thrown at you might hurt

But just know that you are not what they say you are

Yes, it it’s not fair but life was not meant to be fair at times

They don’t know your destiny – it can’t be interpreted to the ‘unseeing’


Don’t be afraid of taking the steps to your happiness

Be afraid to let yourself down

Your path has been drawn with love, mastered with creativeness

The kingdom is all your to rule – own it


“Ugly, stupid, fat, too thin, worthless, poor,

You will never amount to anything

You are just a dreamer”

They say… but they are liars

Keep your head up high and ride in the wave of their criticisms

Knowing they are fighting their demons too

Their evil words are just reflections of who they truly are not who you are



Refuse to give them power over you

You are not a victim, champ

Stay above it all

Let all these make you stronger, smarter, kinder and happier


Rather choose to be hated for being real and true to yourself

Than being loved for being phony

The burden of waking up to being someone else is not worth it

Be the ladder of help to those below you!


Always Remember:

Bullying is a blanbully-1061363_1280.pngket worn by cowards.

Bullying is never cool!

Bullying can lead to suicide for those bullied so always think twice before you bully someone.




Say Goodbye to this


Don’t you want to stay a little while longer?

Don’t you want to hold me for a little while?

I don’t want to say goodbye to this

I need you here with me


We can make a world of our own

Where your breathe is mine and mine, yours

Where we only need one heart to survive

I need you to need me like I do you


To the world, I’m blind

But we both know my eyes see only you

You are fire to my winter

A cool breeze to my blazing sun


I’m your true love – you just don’t know it yet

I’m the mother of your unborn children

The only person you are going to look forward to argue with

Just so you can have the fired up make-up love-making scenes


Honey, I’m that kind of girl you take home to meet your mama

And my mould doesn’t come twice

This luck doesn’t hit you twice in your lifetime

So what do you say to me wearing your big t-shirt every morning?

Definition of Beauty – Subjective or Relative


What is beauty?

Is it universal? Can beauty be measured? If it is measured, how does one measure it?

Is the length of your hair? The texture of your hair? The size of your eyes? The colour of your eyes? The tiny waist? The size of the breast? How skinny one is? The size of the bums? The expensive weaves we don on our heads? The wrinkle-less face? The ‘secret’ and never-to-be-mentioned monthly botox injections? The skin complexion?

“Beauty itself is but the sensible image of the infinite”

 – George Bancroft (American historian)

According to the online Cambridge Dictionary, beauty is “the quality of being pleasing, especially to look at, or someone or something that gives great pleasure, especially when you look at it.” and “a quality that makes something especially good or attractive.”

India Arie put the body image issue in a more clear picture in her song, I am not my hair:

I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your expectations no no
I am not my hair
I am not this skin

Good hair means curls and waves
Bad hair means you look like a slave
At the turn of the century
Its time for us to redefine who we be
You can shave it off
Like a South African beauty
Or get in on lock
Like Bob Marley
You can rock it straight
Like Oprah Winfrey
If its not what’s on your head
Its what’s underneath

Does the way I wear my hair make me a better person?
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better friend? Oh
Does the way I wear my hair determine my integrity?

Do we judge other’s beauty based on how we relate with ourselves? Do we justify who we are by judging the physical appearance of others? Do we hide our weaknesses by being harsh to those who are not beautiful in our eyes? Are there not bigger issues that we can spend our energies on; terrorism, hunger, wars etc?

The tradition has always had people defining beauty with regards to the physical appearance of the object, with women, it is usually with how their bodies are shaped or any attribute that is found in their body parts. It seems like body image has more influence in defining the beauty of a woman than her intelligence or the kind of person she is.

The interpretation of beauty usually leads to comparison among the objects or people involved.

The need by many women to look beautiful has resulted in intense competition which usually leads to resentment, envy and frustration. Women around the world go out of their way to achieve what they believe will make them beautiful; because of the belief that light-skinned black girls (usually referred to as yellow-bones) are beautiful, many black young women in Sub-Saharan countries use skin lighten products to lighten their skins; in certain Asian countries, a pale, white skin is deem to be attractive and women usually apply skin-lighten products to bleach themselves. In the Western culture, women prefer their faces wrinkle-free, tanned skin, and long, silky hair (usually in the form of weaves or wigs).

Other people define beauty in simple terms; take for instance, the Karo tribe of Ethiopia, the more body scars a woman has, the more attractive she is or the Kenya’s Maasai tribe who find shaved heads and long, stretched earlobes (both men and women wear metal hoops on their stretched earlobes) attractive.

When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly. Tao Te Ching

Society has planted and watered the distorted body image and has set rules for what is deemed beautiful and what is not. Hollywood celebrities and the media has not made it easy for women across the globe with this issue – one moment the media will celebrate a certain celebrity as the ‘IT Girl’ and the most ‘beautiful’ woman because she has ticked all the boxes in their physical body image requirement and the next they move and replace her with their latest ‘victim’, it has also lied to the society through their use of Photoshop. The media has even gone to the extend of ‘body-shaming’ other celebrities that they deem their physical appearance to not attractive enough. Reality stars, singers, actors and other celebrities are secretly filling up cosmetic surgeons’ labs in order to reshape their body parts to fit into the ‘required’ looks and most of them even go to the extent of lying to their followers by telling them that they are au naturel which  fuels and heightens the feeling of low self-esteem and insecurity in most of these unassuming women and girls.

Women need to know that we are all different and there’s no need to ever feel insecure about their looks and that beauty is a simply a matter of individual perception or illusion. We all need to embrace our diversity and believe that beauty is subjective (or relative?) and as such, all sizes and shapes are beautiful and attractive.

We are not our bodies but our bodies hold within the real us – they beauty of a being is in how they carry themselves.


Maybe we Should All Glue our Hair Or Maybe Not – How About Natural Hair Remedies?

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Image Credit: hdwallpapers-3d.com

The clock says 23:21 hrs (well, it’s really not a clock because I use my phone as a watch but it doesn’t matter – anyway is there a difference?) and I’m still up. My fingers are burning, I just feel like writing. I don’t know what I should write about, all I know is that I just want to write something – something that is serious, something that I can file or post in my other blog and not this one but I’m not going to do that because I just feel like I take life too serious, I’m uptight most of the times and that ain’t funny at all.

Gosh I can be boring at times (well, most of the times because the thing is, I hide behind written words) – jeez did I say that loud. I betcha most of you probably think I’m this amazing (ok I just struck out that one because 1) I am amazing hehehe 2) You probably don’t think about me – when you take your coffee, you don’t think about me; you usually shrug when you read my posts; when your job stresses you and you see another notice that I’ve just posted yet another deranged post, you don’t think of me – you just get mad at me; when you go out for lunch, you don’t think of me; when you get frustrated with life and a thought crosses your mind with my name tagged on it, you still don’t think of me) but I know for a fact that some people think I’m an extrovert and social person – I’m actually the opposite of that.

The thing is, I prefer to be behind the scene, to go unnoticed, I’m the first to acknowledge the fact that it is really not a good thing but I do it anyway because it’s who I am and also because of that, I don’t have to cross path with the person known as Fake. There have been times when indeed I do believe that miracles do happen – when I instantly become a livewire! I’m normally fired up by something, in case you’re wondering.

Listening to Akon’s Stuck with each other – I really don’t know why every time I listen to this guy I feel so lonely, more especially this song. I mean it is supposed to be about love, you know someone being madly in love with someone… “Love is like glue” nah… there is no creativity in this line… this is laziness man, Akon… ae mane!

The thing is, my plan was not to talk about hearts and XOXO or even about myself (one of my least favourite topics)…

Darn man, I really don’t feel like racking my brains to write up this post, I mean I already have it somewhere so what I’m going to do is copy my work here (hope you don’t have a problem with that but then again if you do… well lemme leave it at that… I talk too much at other time no matter how I claim to be quiet). I think it’s such a shame that I claim to be a writer but I still get confused by the words quiet and quite. Yep I’ve already been convicted and fined by the Grammar Police.

Now let’s get back to the topic…

Hair has been used by many to express themselves through different hairstyles; hair is different in individuals and exhibits human diversity. The hair and the scalp can reveal the health conditions of an individual. Hair acts as temperature regulator and provides protection for the head. Hair care and scalp care intertwine as the scalp provides support for the hair and it is also responsible for producing oil which in turn develops a thin layer of protection for the hair roots. The sebaceous glands found in the scalp skin produce an oily substance known as sebum which is mainly made out of fatty acids. Sebum proves the hair with moisture and acts as protection against dryness; it inhibits microorganisms’ growth and stops the hair from absorbing extreme quantity of external substances.

Image Credit: hdwallpapers-3d.com

Image Credit: hdwallpapers-3d.com

The hair and scalp are exposed to different, severe conditions and are susceptible to the effects of both external and internal elements that affect their health status such as overexposure to invisible UV-B rays, pollution, extreme weather, harsh chemicals from hair care products, hormonal fluctuations and even the individual’s diet and this may result in thinning hair, damaged scalp (flaky or oily), dandruff and head lice.

    • Spray your perfume onto your hairbrush before brushing your hair. The scent will stick to your hair’s natural oils, giving it a subtle and appealing smell.
    • For hair loss treatment, boil mustard oil and add some henna leaves to the simmering oil and let them burn in oil to absorb their minerals. Let the mixture cool then filter it a fine strainer of thin cloth and massage your hair with the mixture daily.
    • Massage your scalp every fortnight to help with hair growth and to stimulate your scalp’s own natural oil production.
    • Mayonnaise can be used for hair conditioning treatment and nourish your hair. Damp your hair with warm water. Apply mayonnaise to your hair then blow drying it to activate the amino acid known as L-cysteine and open the follicles, allowing the mayonnaise to enter the strands. Wrap your hair with shower cap to trap the heat and leave it on for 20 minutes or more. Rinse the mayonnaise off with warm water and let the hair to air dry. Shampoo your hair after 24 hours.
    • Use corn starch baby powder to shampoo your hair. Sprinkle a little amount in your hands, clap palms then rub them together and smoothly run them through the strands.
    • For radiant and glossy hair, apply mustard oil into your scalp and hair then cover your head with a shower cap. Use a hair dryer for 10-15 minutes to assist the oil to seep in then wash your hair and style however you want. Mustard oil is a source of fatty acids which assists in rejuvenating the scalp and stimulates blood circulation by making blood to move to the hair follicles.
    • To assist your hair to grow, mix 2 tablespoons of aloe vera juice and 2 tablespoons of honey. Rub the mixture into your scalp and leave it on for 20 minutes then shampoo.
    • For glossy and nourished hair, rub in almond oil into your scalp and strands then leave it for 20-25 minutes before washing it.
    • Use olive oil as a deep conditioning treatment to help in making the hair silk and enhance hair strength. Rub olive oil to your scalp so that your roots can absorb healthful fats and nutrients, leave it for 10-15 minutes and then wash it off. (Talking about olive oil, that’s my lo-lo. Now this is what I use on my hair – and hey it’s natural… yep I do rock an Afro!)
    • Apply lemon juice to your hair roots to remove dandruff.
  • To get rid of any dead skin left on the scalp after conditioning, rinse your hair with water mixed with few drops of apple cider vinegar.

00:01 hrs: I’m going to sleep or maybe I should… whom am I kidding, I’ve nothing to do at this hour…

Ps: The post was written a week ago… and a few days ago I tasted for the first time red wine mixed with whiskey – I loved it except that after a few sips my lines started to blur…

Oyasumi Nasai or should I say Ohayou Gozaimasu (no, I don’t know Japanese but I love the language – like I love Mandarin, Afrikaans, Khoi San, Spanish, French, iKalanga… the list goes on and on)


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Beautiful Woman: To all the beautiful women (and men) around the world


A Lover’s Poēma

(Extracted from Release the Gypsy and the Belle in You)

Beauty is an opinion and optional. It’s how you estimate yourself that defines your level of beauty.

Beautiful Woman

Oh woman how merry you make me

Drank in your beauty you leave me bowled over

Only you do not know how bewitching your looks are

Many are the princes drowning in your splendor


Grace you were born with

Charmed are all the fine men by your elegance

Maidens sing your praises

Come now pleasure yourself in your birthright


Let us dance the night through

To the song that is held by our hearts

I request only to divulge your alluring, slumbering looks

Your beauty is a windfall to all gentlemen